How to select a good couples therapist
Selecting a good couples therapist is an important first step towards addressing relationship challenges and fostering the positive change you seek.
Here are a few key considerations to keep in mind when researching couples therapist:
Credentials and Training
Look for a therapist who has specifically trained for couples therapy. Credentials such as Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT), Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), or Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) indicate that the therapist has received specialized training in working with couples.
Experience
Consider the therapist's overall experience working with couples. A therapist who has worked extensively with couples will have built a knowledgebase necessary to be effective when it comes to addressing your specific needs.
Approach and Techniques
Different therapists will utilize different approaches and techniques in couples therapy. Some may rely heavily on CBT, while others may incorporate elements of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) or psychodynamic approaches. Speak with the therapist regarding their approach to determine if it aligns with your preferences and goals.
Compatibility
It's so important to feel comfortable and safe with your therapist. Personality, communication style, and cultural relevance and competence all come into play. A good fit between you and the therapist will help facilitate open communication and improve the therapeutic relationship.
References and Reviews
Do feel free to seek recommendations from trusted sources, such as friends, family members, or healthcare professionals. Additionally, online reviews and testimonials from a counselor’s colleagues will help you gain insight into a therapist's effectiveness and reputation.
Cost and Logistics
Consider all of the practical factors such as location, availability, and affordability when selecting a couples therapist. Are the therapist's fees within your budget? Are their scheduling options convenient for you and your partner?
Initial Consultation
Many therapists offer initial consultation sessions. These provide an opportunity to meet, discuss your concerns, and try to determine if they are a good fit. Take advantage of these consultations to ask questions, express your goals, and gauge your overall comfort levels.
Kinsey & Associates is Boston’s most trusted team of therapists. We specialize in in-person couples counseling in the Boston area, as well as all of Massachusetts via online therapy.